Monday, October 12, 2009

Forgot title: Self-pitying Whining 101

1 comment:

Who Am Us Anyway? said...

Self-pitying Whining 101 ...
Truthfully, it doesn’t sound like that at all; it sounds like factual reporting to me.

One thing I did when my parents’ situation was driving me absolutely insomniacally batty, is eventually -- and my wife will attest this is not typical of me at all -- just give my boss a call and say, you know, I just wanted to let you know I’ve got all this going on with my dad, and I’m not asking for time off or less work or anything, but I am tired, and I just wanted to let you know why.

And my boss said, well you may not be asking for any time off, but I’m telling you to take it. And she got other people to cover for me for a week, and I was able to get a lot done for my dad AND take a full, 100 percent, 3-day weekend off when I wasn’t having to multitask downtime with my job and my dad and the rest of my life. And it was a huge help but I was very reluctant to even hint that I might need it.

I know every situation is different, but I think, you know, imagine you were your supervisor and one of your reports said they were going through what you’re going through with your mom, plus having to work most weekends. You deserve some time off and your job will be there waiting for you when you come back.